I was out driving around with my hubby the other day and we passed a graveyard, I was sitting there looking out the window thinking that is going to be me/us someday. I started pondering my life, where I have been and where I have ended up so far. I thought to myself, I would not change a thing.
After giving it a bit more thought, I realized there are things I would change. I would be kinder to myself and love myself with intent. I did learn how to control my chatter box for the better but had not realize that I neglected to love or respect myself fully. I am overweight, I still smoke and ignore the fact that I should see a doctor from time to time. Also, not everything I do brings me joy. I am not perfect, none of us are but I live with my imperfections and embrace the work I still must do.
We all have so much in common and it is not the color of your skin, what gender you want to associate yourself with or who you love. If you want to go a bit further, it also does not matter how much money you may or may not have or the kind of car you drive. It also does not matter how you got there or how you acquired said things.
We are all pushed out of a vagina or taken from a uterus; we all go through our life for however long it is, only moments to 100+ years; we all pass away in the end, and you cannot take what you have with you when you go.
We are human but we are not invincible, we either pay attention to ourselves, each other, or our stuff. because we all have emotions that drive our daily lives. But we have choices on how we control our emotions, actions, how we treat ourselves and others.
Life is 10% what happens and 90% how you react to it (Author unknown)
What Was your choice today or in this moment? to show love, overreact, Get angry? Stay calm or be supportive or to judge someone else, to judge yourself? Did you ignore your emotions or someone else’s? You are ultimately responsible for how you treat yourself and others. You are also the most important part of your life so learn how to treat yourself with kindness.
A conversation with your self will be inspiring or damaging, no matter what is going on in your life make sure you are inspiring yourself to be happy, strong, kind, and worth tomorrow. Your chatter box may need to be trained to use loving and courageous words it is very hard to do but believe me it is worth your time.
A conversation with your spouse or partner will be remembered fondly or with frustration. Ask yourself; will it bring a smile to my partners face? Will that bring you happiness?
A conversation with your child will either lift them up positively or send them into self-doubt. How did you learn to talk and listen to your children if you have them, or to you as a child? Were you spoken to with a positive voice that encouraged you or not so much?
A conversation with your pet can do the same, make them wag their tails in glee or put it between their legs in fear or sadness.
Sometimes it is easy to ignore your tone or words especially if there are no repercussions to your approach, so does that bring you joy or make you happy? Are you using your anger and frustration as an excuse or blaming someone else for your feelings or reactions instead of taking responsibility?
Think before you speak, know your audience, and remember how you drive the conversation is how the other person on the other side of said conversation will respond. This includes you.
The most important person you should support, and love is yourself, it is not up to anyone else to provide that for you, it’s all on you, figure out how to get there. Please do not misunderstand, I am not saying that no one else can love and support you or that you should not love and support someone else, What I am saying, it is most important that you love and support yourself before you look to see if anyone else is doing this for you.
My Goal for myself is to love who I am, except my imperfections and take responsibility for how I treat myself and others, what I eat or drink, if I continue to or quit smoking and make sure I make myself happy and identify the joy in my life.
In the end what most of us will be remembered for by others is how we choose to react. It will not be what we have or how we got there it will be how we made someone else feel, based on how we feel about ourselves.
Self confidence is a superpower. Once you start to believe in yourself, magic starts happening
I feel like I never did love myself growing up. But I am getting there for sure. I still have my good days and bad but it’s all worth it.
Great job love this
Thank you, You need to start loving yourself everyday!